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I Like Two Guys, Who Do I Choose?

Dear Rob,
There are two best friends that I really like and two days ago, thought they liked me.

Guy #1
My best friend has feelings for him and confessed these to me. I liked him at the time and still do but did not say anything to her. We hung out in a group, the two guys and some others. I was asked to make out with him in “Truth & Dare” but I didnt because of my friend (who was not there). I saw him get hurt inside through his eyes. Then, at the end of the night I was dared to lick his cheek. I told him Id do it, and he said “go ahead”, so i did. It is not at all known if he feels attracted to me. But in school today, he completly ignored me and only said “hi” when I saw him. He is in a grade higher than me and we do not have the same group of friends.

Guy #2
He went out with one of my friends. We have not done anything but he bit me and called it a “love bite” and I did the same back, he also pretended to sleep on my shoulder and gave me continuous hugs. In truth and dare, he did not mind doing anything, nor did Guy 1. In school today, he did give me a high five/ hug.

I am really confused on what to do and why they are behaving this way. What should I do? DO they like me?

Thank you for your help,
Paula

Hi Paula,
I think that you are playing sex games that should end immediately.

Inside you’re confused but deep down you know that this is the wrong way to get a boyfriend, by being promiscuous.

Wait a while longer before starting on the road to being sexually active.

Honestly, I don’t think either of these guy’s likes you as much as you need to be liked.

Stay single for a while longer, there’s a better guy coming your way.
Best wishes,
Rob.

When The Guy Doesn’t Call

Hi Rob,
I need your advice on how I should respond and/or feel about a situation….I have been on 4 wonderful dates with a man. When I left his house on Sunday he called me about an hour later to make certain I had found my way home and said he’d call me later that evening, but never did. It is now Tuesday afternoon and I still haven’t heard anything from him. What do I make of this?
Confused

Hi Confused,
A guy almost always calls when he says he will.
Possible reasons why a call won’t call are:
– lost interest in you
– something embarrassing is happening to him that he doesn’t want to share
– he’s talked to his friends and they advised him not to call, not to look desperate
– he feels that he should wait more than 3 days to call you to make your next date

Give him two more days to call you. Then I’d call him, give him heck for not calling you when he said he did and tell him that’s not how to treat you, and for him not to do it again. Or simply say that you had a good time and you wondered what happened because he didn’t call when he said he would. Don’t be too demanding but make sure he knows to always follow-up what he says he’ll do for you. Be straightforward.

Many guys go by the rules of timing when to call after having a date. In order not to appear too needy guys should wait three or four days between calls for a date.

Remember though, it is OK to call right after the date but keep the conversation short. Make sure your date made it home OK, that she had a good time and get off the phone. Dragging out a conversation right after having the date is bad form for any guy. And call frequency increases as you date more. After four dates if interest level is kept high then you’re at the 3 call a week level even if you’re still only going on one date a week. When you start going on more than one date a week the calls can increase to every couple of days. But guys need to call when they say they’re going to call.
Best wishes,
Rob

He Flirts But Wants To Stay Single

Dear Rob,
I’ve become good friends with this guy in such a short period of time, since the beginning of my school year basically. I’ve gotten to know him better and I started having feelings for him.

When I told him about it, he said he didn’t want a girlfriend because this is our last year of high school and he wanted to have fun. My friends get confused because every time I’m with him he flirts with me and they think he likes me. I let the whole “I like him” thing go, I tried moving on and forget everything.

A few months ago, there was this joke about us sleeping together when we go to NY with our school, I didn’t think he was serious but he was.

A few days before Valentines day, he said he’d be my boyfriend for the day because he knew I didn’t like that day since I’m single, and as a joke I said to him “What are you getting me for Valentine’s day?” and he said, a big kiss. Anyways to get to my point, he kissed me on Valentines day after school but I didn’t think he’d do it.

When I had asked him, “where’s my kiss” I was laughing so when he kissed me I laughed. On instant messenger later that night, he was complaining because we didn’t do it right. He wants to redo that kiss sometime this week.

I am really confused, I don’t know if this guy is just using me to get in bed with him or if he really likes me.

He talks to me as if he does like me, but then again when I look at him with other girls, he flirts with them as much as he does with me. The thing that I don’t understand is, why would he kiss me if I wouldn’t mean anything to him? Why would he even want to redo the kiss? I really like this guy, I don’t want to be just a ticket in bed. Do you think there’s any hope or is he just leading me on?
Thanks, Jill

Hi Jill,
Go with your gut:
He’s said that he doesn’t want a girlfriend and just wants to have fun.

This guy won’t commit.
He may lie to you and say that he’s changed his mind, but really, he won’t/isn’t. He may be playing you for sex.

The flirting and everything is because you’re a ‘safe target’. He can be “close friends” with you, play around talking in a sexual way but this won’t lead to anything other than him having a bigger ego, maybe even scoring with you, but in the end you’ll be left behind because he’s intent on ‘future conquests’ that will be available in his coming years after high school.

It’s OK to stay friends with him, but I don’t suggest going beyond that at all.
Unless you’re looking for some hurt.

Keep your lips to yourself.
Best wishes,
Rob.