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She Told Me To Call Her, What Does That Mean?

Hey Rob,
I ran into an friend I had in math class with (at a community college), we talked and she was happy to see me. As I left I told her to call me sometime, but she replied with, you have my cell phone, remember?

Is this a good sign? Does she sound like she wants me to call her?
Sidney

Hi Sidney,
Yes, it’s a good sign.
Call her tomorrow and make plans to ‘catch up more’ the next afternoon. A nice friendly place for a coffee or lunch, be sure to split the bill or go ‘dutch’. (When you sit down and get the menus just say “We’ll split the bill, OK?”)

Guys have to keep in mind that women want to be fought over. Leaving a call up to them is the same as saying to her “You’re interesting to me but unless you make all the moves nothing is going to happen”. And usually that is what happens… nothing. Because the guy just proved he’s a wuss.

Then the guy wonders why she doesn’t call…
“She seemed so interested when we talked that one time…
Blah blah blah.”

Guy’s may play games to try to spark her interest, but girls are much more forthcoming and honest, so that the guy has to make the moves, take the initiative and instinctively prove themselves to her that they are worthy of her.

This isn’t a guy’s wussy “I like you, I love you, I beg you to like me, to love me too” type situation. It’s taking the bull by the horns and making a commitment to the next stage of your emerging relationship.
Never let it pass when she says “You have my number, right?”.
Make a plan to call her and have a plan ready for when you get together, within a couple of days.

Never, ever, tell a girl that you’re interested in seeing more of to “Call me sometime”. It’s a deal breaker.
Best wishes,
Rob.

Will She Become My Girlfriend?

Dear Rob,
I’m a 17 year old guy, and I like this girl. The problem is, I don’t know if she just wants to be friends or does she like me the same way I like her.

Here is some background:
She doesn’t have a lot of “girl” friends, most of her friends are guys. I started talking to her about a month ago at school. She was in a past relationship for 8 months until they broke up. But then they got back together for about 2 days and split again, and I think its for good this time. Well anyway we talked for about two weeks before going out to eat together, and we have been to dinner a couple times after that.

On Fridays I go pick her up and go hang out with my friends. Sometimes we will all go and get something quick to eat. Well, my friends sometimes like to tease me, so we were all in line about to order our food when my buddy ask me, “You paying for your girls food right?”, and when he said that, she said very snappy, “I’m not his girl, there is nothing going on between us”. And I was kind of confused because I had thought we were “dating”. Also, sometimes I will do something nice for her like bring her a biscuit in the morning before school starts, buy her a drink if she has no money. And she will say, “You’re so nice, I’m glad your my “friend”, or something to that affect.

Now it has been about a month since I first met her and we are hanging out more than ever. She invited me over to her house to eat dinner, and she goes with me about everywhere. She calls me every night and sometimes in the morning as I’m getting up. She is always talking about how much we have in common, and how were almost like “brother and sister” (I don’t know what that means). I’m tired of having to correct people when they call her my girlfriend. I like her as a girlfriend, but I’m confused of how she likes me.

Thanks for your time Rob,
Me

Hi Me,
It’s obvious to me that you haven’t yet had a girlfriend.

So this is what you do… stop talking to her. Not in a mean way but just in a “I’m busy and I’ll call you back” type thing.

Depending how she reacts will tell you if she wants to be your girlfriend or if she still thinks of you as a “brother”. (“Brother” means that she’s waiting for her ex-boyfriend to start dating her, usually!)

Don’t be confused, a lot of guys get caught in the middle of women (of all ages) play with their (ex-)boyfriends and get burned in the process.

You make her chase you a little bit, not talking for all hours on the phone, walk-by hellos in the hall at school… just play loose and don’t hang on everything she does.

If she is ready to date you, she’ll get real angry that you’re ditching her… if she doesn’t, well you never had a chance and she was just killing time with you until her ex-boyfriend came back to her.
Best wishes,
Rob.

How To Handle Her Flaking Out

Dear Rob,
I came across your posts on the Internet and I think you might be able to help me with some advices. First, sorry for the eventual grammar mistakes, I am not a native English speaker.

I am a 27 years old man, pretty well educated (degrees in both engineering and economics) and reasonably good looking. I have met one girl I really liked at a party in a Saturday night. She is about the same age as I am.

We have discussed all night, we have danced and, apparently, everything was working smoothly. I have got her phone number without any trouble.

Then, I have called her on Wednesday to ask her for a date next Saturday (I was planning to go watching a movie). During the conversation she told me it would be nice to watch a movie, but she is unsure about she will have time because she is pretty busy (she needs to get in touch with an electrician to fix something in her new house). Anyway, she mention is better to discuss on Friday evening the details. Because she didn’t called me, I phoned her on Friday evening. She mentioned she was unable to contact the electrician and she is in doubt will be able to discuss with him on Saturday. She suggested we should wait until Saturday morning and she will phone me in order to see if she will be able to meet me. Saturday morning she didn’t called me, but, she sent me a message on the mobile phone stating she will meet with the electrician, she has work to do in the house and she won’t be able to meet me. She ended the message saying something like “keep in touch”.

Frankly, I am a little bit disappointed about her attitude because I would have preferred to call and tell me she can’t meet me that day, instead just sending a message (which I think is a little impersonal method of communicating with someone). What I am a little confused is the end of the message. I am pretty sure she is avoiding having a date, but the end of the message is confusing me.
I am considering the possibility of calling her next Wednesday to ask her out for a coffee, considering that, normally she should find some time for this in her busy schedule. Do you think I should call her … or not?

I really don’t understand her attitude, she even refused the first date and didn’t gave me any chance at all. I wonder than why she gave me her phone number in the first place …. it was pretty clear I am going to ask her out. I find her attitude quite immature for a woman of her age … but, what can I say, I like her very much … I know for sure from a very good friend of her that she doesn’t have a boyfriend.
Thanks for all your advice,
Ben

Hi Ben,
One more call, that’s it.

What I suggest is that you invite her out for a coffee, maybe you can meet up somewhere when she’s out running her errands if she says that she can’t commit to a specific time or day.

Many women expect an “Instant attraction” moment and she had one, or else the party was extremely boring when she spent most of it with you.

Don’t take it personally of she doesn’t meet with you, if she flakes out.
Maybe she does need to grow up some more.

If she bails out on you again, then it’s time to put this one back in the pasture and find someone else to date.
Best wishes,
Rob.

How Can I Tell If She Likes Me?

Dear Rob,
I have just been reading into your advice on dating and relationships. Firstly I have to say, I am quite impressed. You seem quite knowledgeable. Despite this however, I feel I need advice on a more individually tailored level.

The situation is this. I am a 21 year old university student in my first year. I have met a girl who I have become quite interested in. She strikes me as being a very kind and friendly person, and has a very positive and bubbly attitude. I recognize the first step is to talk to her. This I have already done.
About one month ago I was trying to do something to rectify my tragic fashion sense. I figured the best advice I could get on this would be to ask the experts. So I decided to approach some girls and ask them if they knew where the best clothes shops where. She was one of them as it turns out. Then for the last month whenever I would pass her by or see her, she would smile or wave at me. Her manner would be quite shy as a general rule.
On the rare occasion I might even catch her looking at me, although I must admit, this doesn’t exactly happen a lot. Then last week, as I was contemplating the idea of approaching her, she approached me. Our chat was quite casual as you can imagine, and was interrupted by the arrival of her friends. From there I was a little left out of the conversation, although she did occasionally turn her attention back to me.

This leads me to ask you for advice on the matter.

My question is this. Is it possible she may like me? Don’t misunderstand me. I don’t blow my own trumpet. I recognize I don’t have classical good looks, and its fairly possible that there is that proverbial ‘tumour in my humour’. But, you never know, and I guess meeting a nice girl is something I haven’t completely given up on. I suppose I haven’t really given you much to go work with, so I will also ask you for a second piece of advice.

How can I find out if she likes me, without completely giving away my own feelings? I am in no mood for rejection anymore. I just need some kind of strategy to work out if my feelings are mutual or not, so that if in fact they are not, I can walk away with my dignity, and have saved face in the process.
I look forward to you reply.
Yours Sincerely,
Mike

Hi Mike,
She does like you and you don’t have to be so secretive and frightened…
Invite her to go fashion shopping with you, one-on-one and let that be the start to a wonderful romance.
Shopping, coffee somewhere…. An after-class snack break or two… fun local events to go to… once the ball starts rolling you’ll be fine.

And don’t be afraid of rejection here, unless you wait too long and she starts dating someone else because you seemed interested, then cooled off towards her.
Be more afraid of that little voice in your head that screams at you with each missed opportunity to ask her out. Being rejected is a whole lot better than never knowing what might have been.

All girls like a guy to ask them, not to “play games” about the first date and whether you like them or not.

The guy that makes the first move usually is the first guy to get the girl.
Best wishes,
Rob

How To Seal The Deal

Dear Rob,
You seem to have a good grasp on this subject PLEASE HELP!! here we go…

I am a 21 year old college student… there was a beautiful girl in my class that I just had to get to know… so I strategically became her lab partner (4 months ago)

When I met her she had a boyfriend of 4 years whom she was with throughout all of high school… but they were on they had been verge of a breakup for a while due to his controlling nature and the fact that he hid an addiction to marijuana from her. she is a relatively strict Christian and he was not so much….obviously.

I have been very laid back with her no pressure no heavy flirting… now we stay up countless hours studying and working on homework at either her house or mine… we usually end up doing other things like going for walks, playing games, even going in her hot tub or just talking and goofing around…

Lately the past couple weeks we’ve gone to the drive in… we get lunch… she comes over on sat night and we “hang out”… she always says she’s over her bf and moved on yet she talks about him occasionally

We have a very good connection… and seem to enjoy each others company… she Emailed me a picture of the two of us… with smiley face… just little things like that… but she has never outright hinted towards liking me and it seems very casual

I’m not cocky.. but I’m not a bad looking guy, I’m athletic, I have a good job, a nice car, a motorcycle, I am a Christian like her, she likes soccer, I coach kids soccer, I volunteer for the homeless, she tells me I’m very intelligent and funny… theoretically I have a good chance?

I know giving in and telling her I feel for her is probably the worst idea… hence I have resisted and kept it casual… but we talk everyday and always know what each other are doing and always have plans with each other and we’ve gotten so close…. Rob this has gone on long enough… I have never felt like this before… she makes me weak like a little school girl and she is the most amazing person I have ever met… I have gotten this far without blowing it… but am loosing strength and I fear becoming to obvious… what can I do to make her want to be mine, WHAT SHOULD I DO TO SEAL THE DEAL?

Hi,
You’ve been spending a lot of time with her and that’s great.

What you aren’t doing is being specific with her.

The next time you’re alone with her say to her “I really like you a lot and I want to make our being together official. Will you be my girlfriend?”

Just like that.

She may say “No” and if she does, then just back off for awhile.

Who knows what contact she has with her ex, maybe she needs to just to be hanging around with someone without the pressure of a relationship.

But you have to let her know that you’re falling for her otherwise the time she spends with you will simply be “relationship healing time” and she’ll start looking for someone else right under your nose.

I have a feeling that she will either say yes or she will want to think about it.
Either answer is in your favor.

But if she can’t give you an answer you’ll need to make her miss you by not being available all the time for her.

Once she starts missing you she will be more apt to decide to date you to not lose what she had with you.

Often women don’t see the best suitor in front of them until they’re gone.

To sum up:
1 Ask her to be your girlfriend
2 If she says yes, move forward
3 If she says no or she wants to think it over, become scarce, don’t hang out with her so much, give her a chance to miss you
4 Know that the future is yours, but you have to pro-actively move the relationship from where it is now to where it belongs, whether getting closer or more apart and you can start dating other women.
Best wishes,
Rob