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I Like My Friend And She Wants To Date Me, What’s Next?

Dear Rob,
Well I’ve got a problem as everybody who writes to you has got. Let me tell you the whole story.

I know a girl, for something about 3 years, and I always liked her, since the first time I’ve saw her. But, along these years she was always dating… And reading some of your answers I realize I’ve done a lot of wrong things, but it doesn’t matter now, what matters is that now she’s available.

But the problem is that I was always her friend, because I couldn’t be more than it. And even liking her I always date other girls, trying putting her out off my mind, never worked, but I was trying at least.

And now, when I really believe I just forgot her she comes with that and tells me she love me. Not like, love.

And I just don’t know what to do. Because nobody has ever told me that. And because of it, she is more and more present in my life, like sending me e-mails, calling… keeping in touch, and to make things worse even more in one of these flirt times I told that I love her too. But I don’t know if that’s really truth, she is hot but now I can have it, it doesn’t see that huge.

And, some times I just feel like I’m a stupid for don’t enjoy this wave of luck, but I’ve already tried to kiss her when I had the opportunity but I couldn’t, you just couldn’t. And I don’t want to be a mean guy.

So… What should I do? I now it’s complicated, but… What do you think?
P.S.: Just to let you know… You’re getting famous… I’m from Brazil, Rio de Janeiro to be honest. Can you believe it? Internet it’s swell.

Hi Rio Guy,
I would think that your streak of good luck is just beginning.

It’s not all that complicated:
The girl you wanted for 3 years is suddenly available, even tells you that she loves you, and suddenly you’re just not that interested in her anymore.

Happens all the time. The chase was more fun that the winning.

Now that you’re available, she’s available, what is your next step?

Well, you date her. Slowly. Grow your interest with her again.

Moving from the friendship arena into the lover’s room is a big step. So my advice to you is go slowly.

Date her but start with the casual things that you both have done before, now just do them only the two of you. Go for walks, go and have meals together.

Don’t force the relationship ahead too fast. You have a real advantage starting this relationship since you are both comfortable together.

Keep things comfortable.

And avoid talks of past relationships, OK?

If you’re still not sure then I’d come right out and ask her about why she wants a relationship with you.

Put all of your cards on the table and just ask her.

Bare your feelings too. But just enough to keep her talking.

Don’t wussy out again and start trading “I Love You’s” until you’re more along in your romance, if that is where this leads you, OK?
Best Wishes,
Rob.